Breaking Up With The Good Girl
Break the habit of turning every mistake into proof that you're not good enough.
A 3-day somatic yoga reset to help you recognize the self-criticism and respond with more grace and responsibility, instead of turning against yourself.
$47 (Regular price $147)
It starts with one small mistake.
Then the Good Girl takes over.
You replay the moment.
~You mispronounce a word in a meeting and cringe every time you think about it.
You make it mean something about you.
~You snap at your partner when you're tired and then spiral:
“I'm a terrible partner.”
You put everyone else's feelings before your own.
~You cancel plans last minute and feel guilty, like you're letting someone down again.
You turn that same voice on your own body.
Maybe you're standing in the bathroom mirror, and instead of seeing your beauty, you immediately start picking yourself apart.
"God, I hate you.
Why can't you just get it together?
You should know better.
What is wrong with you?"
The reason you can't just think your way out of this has nothing to do with willpower.
You've probably already tried the mindset hacks.
Positive self-talk, journaling, telling yourself you're doing your best. And for a moment, it helps.
Then the next mistake happens, and the same voice shows up right on schedule.
That's because the Good Girl isn't just a negative voice in your head.
It's a nervous system survival pattern your body learned a long time ago to help you stay safe, accepted, and loved.
When your nervous system has learned that disappointing someone, being rejected, or losing someone's approval could threaten connection, your body can go into that Good Girl response before you've even had time to think.
I want you to imagine that
you…
Trust yourself again. You still make mistakes, you're still human, but you're not spending your nights and your energy punishing yourself for it anymore.
Here's what that looks like in real life:
You know what to do when the spiral starts.
You have practices that bring you back into your body instead of replaying the moment for hours..Snap at someone you love and don't decide you're a terrible person because of it.
You own it, apologize, and let the moment teach you something instead of using it against yourself.Look in the mirror without immediately finding something wrong with yourself.
You notice the voice that picks you apart, and choose a different way to be with yourself.You can hold yourself accountable and still love yourself.
You admit when you were wrong, make it right, and let yourself move forward.
On the other side of the Good Girl pattern is a woman who knows how to have her own back.
She's not someone you have to become. She's already in you.
This course is an invitation to reconnect with her.
And I want you to experience it in a way the Good Girl would never expect.
Put on your pajamas. Get in bed if you want.
Wear something soft, feminine, sensual, or simply something that makes you feel good in your body.
Bring your tea, dim the lights, and light a candle,
You don't have to be a good student here.
Get cozy. Get comfortable. Let yourself receive.
STOP THE SPIRAL BEFORE IT STARTS
Breaking Up With The Good Girl
A 3-day somatic reset for the woman who's tired of being her own worst critic.
You'll learn to recognize the Good Girl patterns that keep you overthinking, overgiving, and beating yourself up.
Then use movement, breathwork, and self-forgiveness to quiet the inner critic, stop the spiral,
and end your day at peace instead of replaying it.
LET'S BREAK DOWN WHAT'S INCLUDED
Day 1
MEET THE GOOD GIRL
You'll begin recognizing the Good Girl in the moments you criticize yourself, push past your limits, or feel like you have to get everything right. Instead of fighting this part of yourself, you'll begin learning a different way to be on your own side.
Somatic Practice: The Coming Home Practice
A sensual grounding practice to soften toward yourself, reconnect with your body, and begin experiencing what it feels like to have you on your side.
Day 2
The Body Map
You'll identify the different ways your Good Girl can show up, recognize the patterns that are loudest for you, and begin connecting those patterns to your body and the areas of life where you're most likely to abandon yourself.
Somatic Practice: The Sacred Fire Reset
A Kundalini practice designed to help you move through the charge of self-attack rather than staying stuck in the conversation happening in your head.
Day 3
The Art of Having Your Own Back
Learn how to catch the Good Girl in real time, stand up for yourself when she starts attacking, and stay on your own team even when you make a mistake or fall back into an old pattern.
Somatic Practice: The Forgiveness Release Ritual
A guided practice to help you move through what's still sitting in your body and begin letting go of the guilt, anger, or self-punishment you're ready to release.
PLUS - you get these bonuses 🎉
THE SENSUAL BREAKUP KIT
Because breaking up with the Good Girl isn't only about changing the way you talk to yourself.
It's about coming back into a relationship with your body.
» You'll receive a video library of short, sensual somatic practices to help you reconnect with your body and yourself.
Think feminine, soft, slow movement, dancing and twerking, loving touch, lingerie, and mirror work.
Simple practices that get you out of your head and into your body so you can feel more connected, present, and alive.
THE GOOD GIRL IN LOVE WORKSHOP
Your relationship guide to spotting the blind spots, patterns, and self-abandonment that can keep you from choosing yourself in love.
Over 3 video modules, you'll learn...
» See your relationship blind spots
Recognize the subtle Good Girl behaviors that can look like love, patience, or “making it work.”
» Understand your personal patterns
See where you minimize your needs, ignore your body, or prioritize being chosen over what's actually right for you.
» Learn to choose yourself sooner
Hold your standards, and stop abandoning yourself to keep love.
» Release the heaviness you’ve carried from love
A healing practice to help you move the frustration you’ve been holding from relationships where you stayed quiet or chose someone else over yourself.
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Here's What You'll Get
THREE DAYS OF GUIDED TEACHING
Meet the Good Girl, understand the pattern, and learn a new way to respond to yourself.SOMATIC + KUNDALINI PRACTICES
Gentle Movement, breathwork, and self-forgiveness practices to help you experience the work in your body. watch on your PC or PhoneTHE GOOD GIRL VOICE QUIZ
Discover your Good Girl pattern and learn how to recognize it in real time.THE MEDICINE CABINET
A printable guide with words and practices to reach for when the Good Girl starts talking.WORKSHEETS + QUICK REFERENCE GUIDES
Simple tools to help you reflect, integrate, and keep using what you learn.LIFETIME ACCESS
Come back to the course whenever you need it.
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What women are saying
about working with me:
Hi, I'm Essence!
I'm a Radical Forgiveness coach, EFT Practitioner, and Kundalini Yoga Teacher.
I live in Atlanta with my honey pie and our four cats, and yes, I'm a cat lady.
I spent years believing there was something wrong with me. I remember looking in the mirror and saying things to myself that I would never say to another woman, carrying so much shame and self-hatred that I didn't know how to get out of it.
What finally changed things for me was learning how to work with my body and actually move the emotions I had been carrying instead of trying to think my way out of them.
I've spent years doing this work on myself and with other women, and now I help women stop turning against themselves and learn what it feels like to actually be on their own side.
This is the work I wish someone had given me years ago.
QUESTIONS &
ANSWERS
How quickly will I see results?
My first student noticed a shift by the end of Day 1, just from finally having language for the voice that's been running the show.
The real change; actually catching yourself and repairing in real time, tends to click by Day 3, once you've practiced the tools.
How is the course delivered?
You can access from your phone, tablet, or computer. After you enroll, you'll receive instructions to log in to the course platform, where you'll find the videos and practices for all three days.
Do I need any sensual yoga or Kundalini yoga experience?
Absolutely not. You don't need to be flexible, experienced, or "good at yoga." These are gentle, beginner-friendly practices that are really about getting out of your head and back into your body.
Sensual simply means connecting with your senses, softening, and allowing yourself to feel your feminine energy.
How much time do I need each day?
Each day will take about 40 to 60 minutes, including the teaching and embodiment practice. The somatic practice is 15 minutes or less, and you can do everything from your bed or yoga mat.
What is your refund policy?
There are no refunds for this course. Since it's a digital experience and you'll have immediate access to all of the teaching and practices, all purchases are final.
How long do I have access?
Lifetime access. Come back through the three days whenever you need them, whether that's next week or next year. Go at your own pace.
Who is this course for?
This is for the woman who has spent a lot of her life trying to be good, do the right thing, and make sure everyone around her is okay.
You replay conversations, worry about whether you said the wrong thing, feel guilty when you disappoint someone, and can turn one small mistake into hours of self-criticism.
Over the years, you've learned to use being hard on yourself as a way to prove that you care.
Now you're ready to take responsibility, learn from your mistakes, and stop making yourself suffer long after the lesson has been learned.
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